Building on the previous questions – the post a few days before this one – that children (my children) have asked about the way we do things, and why.
- How is the US possibly considering taking away women’s rights to do what they want with their own bodies? If the US is REALLY pro-life, then they would ban guns, and murder, and violence, because who says the life of an unborn baby matters more than the life of a child or adult who are killed for the colour of their skin, their sex or their ethnicity?
- If police here in Toronto really wanted to crack down on cars that speed, don’t follow street rules, and have tinted windows, they should make a law. (We have the conversation about the fact there are laws). In that case, if they break the law, they shouldn’t be allowed to drive. They should be forced to make the changes to their cars. In the mean time, they should have to take public transit. And they should have to pay a fine. That money should go into educating drivers what will happen if they break the laws. If they drink and drive and hurt someone or kill someone, they no longer get to drive. If they damage someone’s property, they should have to pay for it. There needs to be accountability.
- The funniest of these very serious conversations came while discussing limits on screen time. We have always limited screen time, and sites kids can and cannot visit. When parents, my kids say, they will not restrict screen time. They will instead, have serious conversations with their children about when they can access screens and for how long.
When asked what they would do to ensure that school work was completed?
Take away the access until it was done?
They would “discuss” the importance of making sure school work is a priority.
How about if they work still isn’t done?
Take away access?
Again, no, it would make much more sense to have a conversation with the children to let them know that school work comes first and electronics second.
So I asked… What if they lie to you about having work done, or don’t contribute to the house chores? Don’t help with meal prep? Don’t set or clean off the table? Don’t take their laundry downstairs, or don’t take their wet towels off their beautiful hardwood floors?
Without missing a beat, they said; “They will”.
Puzzled, I asked, “so all I needed to do was have a serious conversation with you guys about responsibility, but give you free and unlimited access to electronics and you would be help out more around the house?”
“Absolutely!”, was their response…
“But”… was their next word… “You guys are terrible parents so we likely would have just been on our devices all day!”
I sat there blinking my eyes at them.
“Parenting is really not that hard, you just have to know how to do it properly.”
At which point I stopped the car (we were home) and pointed to the outside, and said, “OUT!”
… and they disappeared with devices in hand, never to be seen or heard from again, or at least until I yelled, “dinner!”.