I have not paid that much attention to the goings-on over the hack of Ashley Madison – I tried to explain the fuss to my kids and I said to them that it was a dating site for married people to meet other married people for… ummm… naked twister. No, I didn’t say that. I said it was a site for married people to meet other married people so they could become friends and go out sometimes.
While we were on vacation, there was a list released by the hacking group which put some or all of the information of the 31 million users out for public consumption.
I was a bit surprised that of that 31 million, 26 million were men, and 5 million women which means that either the data is skewed, that the 5 million women were very much in demand and quite busy or that 10’s of millions of men never found a twister partner.
My interest in Ashley Madison and parent company Avid Life Media (ALM) only lies in the fact that they are a Canadian company and that the site was created, born and raised here in Toronto. I might one day look to see if I recognize any of the names, but to be honest, I don’t care. I, like you, am busy with real things, like family, work, and other activities, and what other people do with their time and in their relationships is 100% their own business and no one else’s.
I think I have always taken this standpoint even from way back in the day when I was The Urban (Not Yet A) Daddy, and I want my kids to look at the world the same way if at all possible. Marriage, relationships, friends, religion… None of this is my business unless you are forcing your views on me, and those views oppress, harm or place others in a lower standing than the rest of us. Then I have a problem with it.
At the end of the day, strip away everything and you have a planet with land, and humans. We are all the same.
I hope the Ashley Madison scandal blows over.
I feel bad for the people involved – I hope they choose to continue life as they know it, or that they get help and work out their issues. I also don’t like to see personal data hacked, stolen, and made public, but I also admire the work of these hackers for taking a stand (if it turns out to be that and not a bitter former employee) and with all of the secrecy in the world it’s nice to know the truth every now and then. It’s how we can hold people accountable.
What is your take on this?
How would you explain this to your children?
Here is the article that I read which helped bring me up to speed;