Happy New Year! How Did 2017 Go? You Tell Me…


Happy New Year!  We, at The Urban Daddy sincerely hope that this year is the best year ever and that it is filled with fun, family, health, happiness, wealth, prosperity and PEACE!

While in the process of clearing off an old computer, I came across my family plan for 2017.  I’m going to post it below and after reading it, you tell me if you think that the year was a success, OR, if I need to rename it “Happy New Year 2018” and try again.

Did you set family goals for the year?  Or does that get done in September before school?

Do you then use January 1st as a re-boot?

 

Here is what I presented to my 3 children on January 1st, 2017.

Welcome to 2017!

Kids, you have left us no choice but to institute this new policy in our household. Your mother and I are tired of picking up after all of you, and asking you to do the same things over and over again.  We don’t like buying you new things because you treat everything you have very poorly.  You all have the ability to change this, but you have never had the reason to… Until now!

Each of you have complained that we don’t like doing things that you want to do, and that is also going to change this year because as a family, we will be doing more together inside and outside the house.

You have 2 options. Read them below and let’s see which one we like and want to start following.

Option 1.

Starting at 12:01.01 am on January 1st, 2017, your parents will no longer be making your lunches, driving you to programs, buying you toys, or taking you to and from school.  We will not be allowing you to watch TV, use electronics or listen to your music devices until these following conditions are all met each and every day.

Conditions;

  • Make your beds in the morning
  • Brush your teeth in the morning and at night
  • Clean up after yourselves after each and every meal – not just putting things on the counter or in the sink, but in the dishwasher, or washed, dried and away.
  • Not leave any food out
  • Put away all of your clean clothes
  • Placed dirty clothes in your hamper the right side out
  • Only be allowed to eat at the kitchen table
  • Leave the kitchen table and your eating area spotless once you have finished
  • Hang your towels on the back of the door in your bathroom once you have used it
  • Hang your jackets in the closet when you get home, not on the railing, not on the floor in the closet, but hung properly
  • Complete ALL of your homework assigned to you which is due the next day
  • Be responsible from taking your lunch box from your school bag, empty it – put dirty dishes in the dishwasher, or wash, dry and put them away. Any uneaten food must be put in the appropriate place
  • Not hit one another
  • Not yell at one another
  • Not swear at all. Ever
  • Be respectful to your parents.

 

If you fail to do any 3 of these in a week, you will forfeit anything that you consider “fun” and will be given extra school work to compensate for your lack of interest in being a contributing member of this family.

 

Option 2.

Help out more around the house. It’s your house too, not just ours.  Don’t fight as much with each other and respect each other’s belongings.  Be kind to others, be kind to yourselves, and make sure if you don’t know / are not sure / confused / uneasy or uncomfortable with anything that is said, done to you, near you or around you, or to others, to ask us or tell us.

Lie to us and it’s over. Tell us the truth and we can deal with consequences.

We want others to see how wonderful each of you are.

Hugs are a must

We’re not perfect either but we are your parents. We have the key / password / ability to allow you to have fun, or be miserable.  We think you might want fair and fun over option 1 and feeling like a prisoner.

Happy New Year!

 

 

How was our year?  Better than 2016.  🙂

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Don’t Be a Twit on Twitter: Twitter adds tougher language to ban on hateful conduct, threats


It’s been a couple of weeks now since Twitter changed their rules of conduct to highlight the fact that violent threats and abusive behaviour are not tolerated, and I have to say I have noticed a bit of a difference.

Normally in my newsfeed I come across a few threads which are full out battles which include threats, racist or hate speech, negative stereotypes being used and full-on hate for someone because of how they were born.

So while I am seeing a reduction in this type of behaviour from nitwits, I’m not sure how these rules reduce the threat of extremists from using Twitter to recruit members and promote their illegal activities.

Personally, I’d like to see a case come up and then see how Twitter handles it.  The proof really is in the pudding, right?

The company has said: “The updated language emphasizes that Twitter will not tolerate behaviour intended to harass, intimidate, or use fear to silence another user’s voice. As always, we embrace and encourage diverse opinions and beliefs — but we will continue to take action on accounts that cross the line into abuse.”

So what has changed?  Well, the new language gives Twitter the authority to suspend or shutter any user account that engages in “hateful conduct” or whose “primary purpose is inciting harm towards others.”

But it’s not that this was allowed before, right?  Twitter has always said that users could not promote or threaten violence, but the new wording broadens the scope, by using language under “hateful conduct” like this:  “You may not promote violence against or directly attack or threaten other people on the basis of race, ethnicity, national origin, sexual orientation, gender, gender identity, religious affiliation, age, disability, or disease.”

The new policy also explicitly bans the creating of multiple accounts which contain the same users so that if one account is suspended the bad guys just use another account right away.

Ideally, the other thing Twitter needs to look at is the long inactive accounts which people want, and to open up a service whereby for either a small fee – possibly a donation – or by making a compelling case, they will close the inactive account and provide access to users who really want or need them for, I don’t know, their blogs maybe.

In my case, to be specific, the ideal twitter handle only had a few posts over a couple of years and then has fallen silent for the last 3 years, whereas I’ve been blogging under this name for over 11-years.  I’d love to get my hands on that account to clean up my social media but the owner of that account does not respond and Twitter does not do anything.

But I digress!

If people cannot be nice to each other and polite online, understanding that they are unlikely to change anyone’s view in 140 characters and with hateful language, they deserve to have their accounts pulled.

I hope to see Twitter take action and when they do, I hope it sends a message to the haters to lighten up and start being nice, or find another service.