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Why Do “We” Do This As Parents?


Why, as parents, do we do everything in our power to;

  1. Keep our kids quit in restaurants, by teaching them how to behave in public, yet when they’re in a McDonalds, we allow them to sit on their own, run around the place, scream, sing and be really, really disruptive to everyone around them.  They are especially annoying to the, ahem, father who is trying to write blog posts with his headphones on, but cannot put 2 thoughts together because of the chaos.
  2. Teach children that our word is our word and that they should listen to us, but then after telling them over and over again, for example, that they cannot have dessert until they eat their McNuggets, and then when they don’t eat their McNuggets, buy them dessert anyways?
  3. Keep the kids quiet – and by quiet, I mean asking them to take the cups off their mouths and stop singing at the top of their lungs – but when they refuse to listen, “distracting” them by buying them dessert…

Who parents like this?

When I asked why do “we”, I really meant who do “they”.  I certainly do not parent like that!

Yet there are a whole bunch of parents in here who do!

 

Update:

The loud people left, finally, but not before the kids bolted and hid under tables (even tables where people were eating), and as the final piece of class, the father yelled “John! I’ll see you in the car” and with that he headed to the door, leaving a 3-year-old, wailing in the middle of the restaurant.  Thankfully the kids 5yo sister came to get him.

Then, just as the ringing in my ears subsided, 2 mothers and 2 girls came in, and the mothers have allowed the kids to absolutely run wild in here… (see, not just the dads).

The kids have been running around barefoot (ugh), and in their socks (ugh), and screaming, spiting, sitting on tables and walking across the chairs.  After a few dirty glares, the parents shh’d the kids, but then the parents went back to talking and the kids took of their shoes and are back to yelling, and picking up stuff from the floor…

Again I ask… Why do parents think it’s okay to let their kids run amok in some restaurants, but not others?!?

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Ever Wondered How Fast You Can Get Out Of Bed In the Middle Of the Night When Your House Alarm Goes Off?


In case you have ever wondered just how fast you can get out of bed in the middle of the night when you home alarm system starts wailing, I can tell you this… Seconds!

Last night, at about 1:50am, while Toronto was in the midst of a very windy weather “situation”, the home alarm that we have on to, you know, keep us safe, started to wail.

As I shot out of bed, I was met in the hallway by 2 of my 3 children, ready to defend our house from intruders.

The teenager… slept.

I slapped on the lights, ran to the front door… closed.  Surveyed the windows… Intact.  Raced to the back door… WIDE OPEN!

“Intruder alert!” I screamed.  Gather your weapons!

Then the phone rang… alarm company.  Wanted to know what’s up.

As my wife spoke to them, I walked to back door to see that there were no footprints in the snow, and no possible way that anyone could enter the house that way.

Did I mention it was REALLY windy?!?

I looked at the door, it was still locked.  The force from the wind pushed on the door so much that the bolt slide over allowing the door to fly open.

So we told that to the alarm company, bolted the door back in place and then secured the door was the top and bottom with the extra latches – likely meant for really windy days like last night.

The kids, clearly traumatized, could not go back to sleep.  In fact, they “had” to sleep with mummy…

I took them into their rooms while I grabbed a hockey stick and checked the rest of the house, just to be safe.

I came back to sleeping children except of the one child who may or may not get anxious every now and then, and I sat with him explaining what the sound was, why it occurred, showed him that I barricaded the back door so that we could go back to sleep and then sat with him while he quickly, but restlessly dozed off.

As I lay there, wide awake at 2:30am, I thought back to when we first moved into the house and started putting the alarm on at night… One morning I forgot to turn it off, and opened the door and the alarm screeched away.  This child must have been… 3 or 4-years-old, and from that day onward for a good year or 2, he would get up, race into our bedroom, see if the alarm was still red (armed) and he would point at it and yell, “red light, red light”, so that we would turn off the alarm in his presence.

He wanted to make sure that never happened again.

It was quite the responsibility for a little child to take on, but that was his thing.

Then again, this was the same child who – after a couple of days of very heavy rain – asked us if he should build an ark so that we could all escape safely…

So the answer to the above question is seconds, and the answer to the question: How fast can you get back to sleep.. That answer is not as quickly as I got out of bed and downstairs… Not even close.

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Happy Birthday to The Urban Daddy Dinosaur


So today is my birthday.  I’m not normally a fan of birthdays – something about getting older, and all the unnecessary attention that it brings – but I had to share a conversation that I had with my son.

Him: “Happy birthday Dad.  What do you want for your birthday?”

Me: “Nothing, thank you.  Just lots of hugs.”

Him: “Okay.  That’s easy.  What are you going to do differently this year?”

Me: “Ummm…. I’m going to lose a pound of weight for every year old that I am.”

Him: “Won’t it be difficult trying to lose 150 pounds?”

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Our Family Day Plans! #NoPhoneFamilyDay


I saw this, and I love it!  What a great way to spend Family Day!

Parenting Power brings back #NoPhoneFamilyDay this February

Put down the phone and pick up your kids!

This Family Day, February 18th, 2019, Canada’s leading resource for all things Parenting, Parenting Power, is asking people to put away their smartphones for the day and instead, spend quality time with their families. #NoPhoneFamilyDay, now in its third year, is a one-day movement in which families unplug and spend more quality time with each other without the constant distraction of a handheld device.  

“This is how kids spell love: T-I-M-E,” said Gail Bell, Co-founder of Parenting Power. “You are not present with your kids if you or they are looking at an electronic device; both parties have just become less important. That’s why we’re encouraging people to share #NoPhoneFamilyDay on social media, leading up to Family Day, to get parents to focus on quality family time.”

#NoPhoneFamilyDay aims to improve family ties, help parents set clear intentions about their technology use and plant the seeds for year-round reduction of technology dependence. Countless studies have proven the importance of reduced screen time and increased person-to-person contact – this occasion serves as a reminder to take a break from the phone to focus on family.

Last year, thousands of people engaged in the #NoPhoneFamilyDay movement, with authentic and engaging conversations that allowed people to get real about their smartphone use. “As soon as we begin to consider the idea of putting devices to the side, we open an opportunity to connect as a family,” says Julie Freedman Smith, Co-Founder of Parenting Power and #NoPhoneFamilyDay.When we decide how this will happen in our own home, we become more intentional in our parenting and teach our kids how to take responsibility for our own actions.

About Parenting Power

Julie Freedman Smith and Gail Bell are Canada’s go-to parenting support team! The two co-founded Parenting Power in 2002. Their combined experience in the education sector set them up perfectly to support parents in facing the everyday parenting challenges of life.

Their clients range from individual families to large scale companies seeking to support their employees in feeling confident, capable and calm at home so that they can arrive focused and ready to work. Julie and Gail believe that there is more than one right way to parent and combine research-based information, humorous anecdotes and parenting-tools-to-use resulting in audiences and clients ready to face their real-life parenting challenges head on!

Their first book, A YEAR of Intentional Parenting, praised by world-renowned parenting expert, Barbara Coloroso, guides parents in finding their ‘right way to parent.’

In 2017, Julie and Gail were featured on WomenofInfluence.com. You will regularly find them quoted in the National Post, the Globe and Mail, Today’s Parent Magazine, Canadian Families Magazine, GlobalNews.ca, and CBC.ca. You’ll also see and hear them on CityTV’s Breakfast Television, CTV, Global, and CBC Radio One.

In 2018, Parenting Power launched their Real Life Parenting Podcast, available weekly on iTunes and GooglePlay. 

 

Who else is in?