Is it still bribery if it works?
For months I have been complaining here and on Facebook about my kids lack of love for skating and karate.
Skating we do Saturday morning and Karate on Sunday morning.
Watching the older boy do karate is very painful. He knows the moves but gets distracted, is tired or generally would rather talk to the girl sensei’s. He has white belt with an orange stripe and a couple notches for about a year and I thought he would never progress towards his yellow belt.
In skating, he fared a little better as he became on of the fits kids his group to jump, but he still sends way too much time sitting on the ice complaining. Considering he had never skated before I am extremely pleased with his progress and willingness to try new things.
Stewie on the other hand is excelling in karate, just behind his brother in rank although himself just starting about 6 months ago. He listens, tries and looks like he really enjoys it. That makes me happy.
But in karate… Look out! He’s a disaster. He spends a lot of time on the ice wailing. Doesn’t want to fall, or get up once he falls, or skate or sit still.
I gave up and decided to bribe them, if that is the correct word.
I offer them a Tim Horton’s cookie after class (a couple times before class if they have already started melting down). The sugar / treat keeps them interested and they follow better and perform better.
Now they are both taking party in the skating contest at the end of the program and Linus is up for testing to get his yellow belt.
Some may cal it “bribery” but I call it incentive.
Am I wrong?
What do you do to get your kids to perform better?