Monthly Archives: September 2012

NFL and Referee’s (NFLRA) Reach Deal: Referees back Thursday.

The new NFL logo went into use at the 2008 draft.

Labour Peace at last…

Anyone surprised that the National Football League (NFL) and their referees have reached a deal late on September 26th. The plan is to have them referee the Thursday night game between the Cleveland Browns and Baltimore Ravens.

An NFL Spokesman tweeted the news just after 11:00 pm.

Replacement referees have worked the first three weeks of the NFL season while both sides worked to get a new labor deal done ending an impasse that began in June when the league locked out the officials and used replacements instead.

The NFL referees association (NFLRA) was seeking improved salaries, retirement benefits and other logistical issues for the part-time officials.  The NFL has proposed a pension freeze and a higher 401(k) match, and it wants to hire 21 more officials to improve the quality of officiating.  The union has fought that, fearing it could lead to a loss of jobs for some of the current officials, as well as a reduction in overall compensation (there are only so many ways to slice a pie).

The NFL claimed its offers have included annual pay increases that could earn an experienced official more than $200,000 US annually by 2018 however the NFLRA has disputed the value of the proposal, insisting it means an overall reduction in compensation.

I think everyone saw this deal coming after coaches, players and fans expressed frustration culminating with a controversial call at the end of Monday night’s game between the Green Bay Packers and Seattle Seahawks where Seattle beat Green Bay 14-12 on a hail mary toss into the end zone on the final play.  Packers safety M.D. Jennings had both hands on the ball in the end zone, and when he fell to the ground in a scrum, both Jennings and Seahawks receiver Golden Tate had their arms on the ball.

The closest official to the play, at the back of the end zone, signalled for the clock to stop, while another official at the sideline ran in and then signalled touchdown.  Watching these two referees signalling different calls was comedic and caught the attention of fans and non-fans alike.

The NFL said in a statement Tuesday that the touchdown pass should not have been overturned — but acknowledged Tate should have been called for offensive pass interference before the catch. The league also said there was no indisputable evidence to reverse the call made on the field.

WOW.

Then came news from Las Vegas that over a half-a-billion dollars changed hands after the blown call, and one major Vegas sportsbook called D Las Vegas is actually offering refunds over the blown call.

With all the negative press over blown calls, 4 1/2 hour games, and the lack of experience the replacements referees brought to the NFL it was only a matter of time before the referee union held the key bargaining chip and negotiations turned in their favour and a deal was struck.   So now that this issue is over, it’s time to turn my attention back to the NHL lockout and the stupidity there…

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A little about Yom Kippur: Wishing you an easy fast.

Kol Nidrei prayer of Yom Kippur

Kol Nidrei prayer of Yom Kippur.

If you are observing Yom Kippur, I wish you an easy fast, and if you are seeing this after the day has finished, then may you be inscribed in the book of life for another year.

Note:  This is a scheduled post done before the day… I’m probably still in synagogue starting to get hungry while asking for forgiveness.

So what does this all mean???

Let’s start with the traditional greeting for Yom Kippur;

gamar hatimah tovah” — “A good completion to your inscription (in the book of life).”

gamar tov,” – “A good completion.”

shanah tovah” – “A good year.”

tzom kal” – ” Have an easy fast.”

Yom Kippur is probably the most important holiday of the Jewish year, and not a happy one, so saying Happy Yom Kippur is not applicable.

A little more about Yom Kippur:  This holiday is observed by the most amount of Jewish people, even those who do not observe the other customs or holidays and during this day, we refrain from work, we fast and attend synagogue services for the day.

The name “Yom Kippur” means “Day of Atonement,” and on this holiday we atone for the sins of the past year.  On Rosh Hashanah, the Jewish New Year which arrives just before this holiday, G-d inscribes all of our names in the book of life and on Yom Kippur, the judgment entered in these books is sealed.  Yom Kippur is, essentially, the last appeal, or last chance to change G-d’s judgment, and to demonstrate repentance and make amends with those you have knowingly or unknowingly hurt or offended during the year.

Yom Kippur is a complete 25-hour fast beginning before sunset on the evening before Yom Kippur - called Kol Nidre - and ending after the sun goes down on the day of Yom Kippur. There are some lesser known restrictions on this day aside from work and eating / drinking, such as wearing cosmetics or deodorants, wearing leather shoes - canvas sneakers are very common - and engaging in sexual relations are all prohibited on Yom Kippur.

As always, any of these restrictions can be lifted where a threat to life or health is involved. In fact, children under the age of 13 and women who are in childbirth or are breastfeeding are not permitted to fast, even if they want to. Older children are permitted to fast, but are permitted to break the fast if they feel the need to do so.

Most of the holiday is spent in the synagogue, in prayer.  Services begin early in the morning and continue until about 3pm. People then usually go home for an afternoon nap and return around 5pm for the afternoon and evening services, which continue until sundown.  After sundown families and friends get together to break the fast and enjoy a meal together.

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What are McGuinty’s Liberals doing to Teachers in Ontario? A View from Within…

Ontario Secondary School Teachers' Federation

Ontario Secondary School Teachers’ Federation vs. Ontario Liberals.

Last week I posted an offer on my Facebook page (www.facebook.com/TheUrbanDaddy) for a guest blogger or 2 and had some positive responses.  One such response came not to that group, but instead, to my email (realurbandaddy@gmail.com).

Those of you in Ontario would be perfectly aware that the governing Liberal government has been putting pressure on the public school teachers, passing an anti-strike bill that cut their benefits and limits the wages for Ontario teachers.  On the Ontario Liberal website, their take on this legislation and it’s impact is outlined here; ”Ontario Liberals passed the Putting Students First Act so that parents will have the peace of mind in knowing that the school year will stay on track and education funding will stay where it belongs — in the classroom.”  This is not working at all, with teachers protesting the cuts by not making themselves available for any “extracurricular” activities – sports, art, music, after-school activities and in some cases… curriculum night.

While I do not agree with holding kids hostage for political decisions, there are some arguments which still have to be played out in Queen’s Park, in the media and possibly in court, including; How much have the teachers salaries increased over the past 10 years when private sector salaries have been frozen, or jobs lost, why did the public school teacher’s union not settle with the government when the offer was acceptable for the catholic school teachers, if it’s true that the salaries of public sector employees are 100% paid for by taxpayers (and I am a former public sector employee) then should we not step back for a minute and remember that these employees pay taxes on their salaries and contribute as much as every other tax paying citizen in Ontario.  And one last matter, is curriculum night really extra curricular???

It’s going to get ugly before it gets better, that’s for sure.

So I have an opinion from an actual teacher in Toronto who emailed me his / her thoughts on this matter which I will post below without edit.

Have a read and tell me what you think?

“Teaching, or being a teacher in Ontario.  Right now, as part of a union.  It’s so hard to write these words  because as a human being with thoughts of my own, I am torn in two.   People who know me know that I  hold some fairly conservative fiscal views.  The other part of me is a teacher, who belongs to a union, who is at war with the government.   The part of me that believe in free market enterprise believes that I should have the right to individually negotiate my salary and benefits with my employer based on how much experience and education  as well as success that I bring to the table.  The other part of me I guess is relieved that I don’t have to personally do this every year or 4 years.   I am so scattered on the current subject, but I want to clear up misconceptions:

1.    Teachers want more money.  Untrue. ETFO and OSSTF agreed in principle to a two-year wage freeze last March.  If it were just about the money, this would be over by now.  To understand more deeply though, teachers are on a grid for salary, starting at year 0 and ending in year 11.  You get a raise each year until your 11th year and then you are done.  The only increases you get will come from cost of living increases negotiated by the union (in the neighborhood of 1-2% usually).  Unions were more than happy to freeze those at the top, but were asking that younger and brand new teachers still be allowed to move on the grid with each year of experience.  The government disagreed.  How would you feel?  Now, in fact, this piece doesn’t affect me.  I am past year 11.  I am just frozen, which I don’t actually care about.  But imagine a first year teacher, frozen at first year salary (39,000) working for 2 years, and when they‘unfreeze’ are not given the 2 years of experience they have racked up during the contract.  So despite 2 years of service, when the teacher starts at year 0, when they unfreeze they will go to year 1.  Most teachers will lose a huge amount of money this way and it is unfair. It is overly generous to me who has nothing to lose, and penalizes those coming up behind me.

2.    Why are teachers bitching about sick days when they already get 2 plus months off a year? Let me clear this one up too. Summer for teachers is in fact unpaid. We are prorated during the year and a percentage of our salaries is held back off of each pay.  In our last pay in June, we are given the heldout money that the board reserved from our pay during the year so we can survive the summer months.   Let’s be clear, we are not on paid vacation.  Why do we need 20 sick days?  Easy, because the vast majority of working people (and we get this, we honestly do) will send their sick child to school.  And children by nature are the worst at spreading germs.  I have literally been vomited upon.  I’ve had a child with bronchitis cough in my face. I have caught more flus and strep throats and colds than I can remember.  I don’t use sick days for fun.  I, like many other teachers understand how hard it is for you to arrange child care or take a day off work yourself.  So the choice is either YOU get more sick days or I do.  Quite frankly I’d be thrilled if all parents kept their sick children at home because they had their own bank of sick days, but they don’t, so teachers do.

3.    So I addressed having our sick days cut in half, and not being allowed to carry them over year to year.  The not carrying over part bothers me, and the cut in sick days bother me.  Here’s the part that doesn’t – gratuity pay when you retire.  Essentially, in the past if you didn’t use your sick days, you’d get a big cheque at the end (nowadays the top payout was about 46,000, not bad right?).  Many unions have already given up this benefit, and I don’t think we teachers have a leg to stand on for this.  I won’t fight for it.  People in the private sector don’t get this, and as more public contracts come up you will see the retirement gratuity go the way of the dinosaur. All I am asking for is my sick days, to bank them, and if I don’t use them, when I retire, they vanish.  Fair enough?

Here’s where we get into tricky territory for me.  We have lost the right to strike, or to collectively bargain, essentially rendering our unions useless, and the dues we must pay to them every month a complete waste of our money.   Anyone who knows me from the past knows that I’ve always lived this double life of hating unions while being a member of one.  I am now in the spot of having to seriously reevaluate all my thoughts and feelings on this issue.  I don’t want to be a hypocrite and say that MY union should be able to collectively bargain and the rest should fold.  It would go against my most inner beliefs.  I can’t help that I chose a profession that is unionized.  I have had times in the last few years where my union(s) came to my aid: when I was unjustly reprimanded by an administrator, the union was there, and helped me navigate a diplomatic and well thought out counter offence that saw the accusation and reprimand go away.  I was grateful at that moment to know there were people who “had my back”.  I got angry four years ago when the union I was in at the time went for major increases in salary in a crappy economy, and more shocked still to see the McGuinty government GIVE it to us.   It was unnecessary and probably put us where we are today.

Now that we are legislated with “Putting Kids First” which we always did anyway, let’s talk about actual outcomes for the government.   They will save (they say) 468 milllion dollars over the course of the 2 years. They are fighting a 15 billion dollar deficit.  For those good at math, he just solved 1/30thof the problem while alienating most of his base (of which I am not one).  If he had wanted to create a larger impact, he should have gone after the entire public sector, with one huge piece of legislation, freezing everyone, everywhere, making us work unpaid days, and cancelling gratuities and collective bargaining everywhere.  But he didn’t.  He attacked teachers.  And that’s where I feel stung the most.  Teachers don’t want to put students in the middle of this, but it’s all they have left. I have watched the news and seen how many individual schools have announced no extra-curriculars for the forseeable future.  Ladies and gents, I hate to say it, but I believe within the next two weeks this will be province wide, and there is even talk that the Catholic teachers will follow suit, as most of them have yet to ratify the deal their leaders took which they felt betrayed them.   Is Putting Kids First ensuring that they have demeaned, hostile teachers?  Is having students essentially living through 2 years of work to rule worth it?   Like I said, I am still sorting this out for myself and asking myself what I think I can live with.   I don’t have answers, but I am tired of that panicky feeling at the bottom of my stomach for what comes next.

As a teacher I am tired of being called every name in the book – lazy, greedy, short hours, blah blah. All of it untrue.  Tired of having to defend myself and I won’t anymore.  No one in the private sector would be shamed for hoping for a raise based on their performance, why do we vilify those in the public sector who hope for the same?  I hate to say it, but us public sector people, we ARE the middle class, and we are the stable jobs that pay into the tax base and keep things alive while private interests go bust.   So please, stop telling me you pay my salary, I pay my salary too.

I am tired of the government PR campaign that seems to say all teachers want is more money, and I’m sick and tired of seeing that my union who has a well defined position (we just don’t want to lose our right to collective bargaining) be completely unable to get the message out.  In the PR wars, we have lost, and lost big, and in doing so have alientated the public.  It’s hard to be a teacher today in Ontario, but I will carry on as I always have, teaching to the best of my ability, and I didn’t need Dalton to condescend to me to “Put Kids First”.  I always have.  But I’m not a volunteer or a nun.  He needs to remember that.”

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Service Canada’s Live-In Caregiver Contract: Very Important for Employees and Employers.

Contracts

The importance of contracts!

I thought it might be useful to post the link to Service Canada‘s Live-In Caregiver contract.  I have posted many articles over the past couple years about the importance of a contract for those participating in Canada’s Live-In Caregiver Program (LICP) – both for employer and for employee but a formal detailed contract is equally as important for live-out caregivers and nannies who are living in, but not through a formal program like the LICP.

The contact forms the basis of a legal agreement between employer and employee as to what is expected and agreed upon by both sides and is used in case of disagreement to support the previously agreed upon terms.

In a nutshell, if you want to hire someone, they have to agree to all the work arrangements in the contract and if you want to be employed by someone then the contact tells you what the employer expects from you and outlines every detail from hours worked, to amounts renumerated to specific tasks.  It’s like going to get a job anywhere else in the world, where you sign the contact before they agree to hire you and it’s about time the contract has become formalized for nannies to avoid employers from taking advantage of them.

Too often I hear and read about employers who think their live-in nannies are on call 24/7 at their disposal to take care of them and their kids, and their house and their pets… It’s ridiculous.  Also hearing about employers placing curfews on their nannies, or making them address you as Mr. or Mrs. like they are a servant.  Most of it is not allowed and some of it is just not right.  If you accepted a job working at a top law firm, or in the warehouse of WalMart would you allow for them to treat you like that?

As a result of some of these abuses of nannies from overseas, the Canadian government has been tightening up the LICP program - prospective nannies can apply from the program by following this link; http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/work/caregiver/apply-how.asp.  Part of the application process, requires that nannies MUST sign a written contract with their future employer, and the employer must also sign the contact which is them submitted together with the positive Labour Market Opinion (LMO).

The LMO is issued to the employer by the government after a lengthy review of the submitted documents and the information is verified, an interview is conducted by phone, and once the employer is deemed to be a suitable employer who has followed all the government requirements and regulations for the LICP.

Employers must also provide to the government their payroll BN number with the CRA, and have available suitable space in their home for a nanny to live, and prove that they have children in need of caring for and the financial capabilities to support a nanny.

The contract must be the same employment contract submitted to HRSDC/SC by your employer, unless you provide an explanation of any changes (for example, a new start date).

The written employment contract will ensure there is a fair working arrangement between you and your employer. The employment contract must demonstrate that the Live-in Caregiver Program requirements are met by including a description of:

•mandatory employer-paid benefits, including:

◦transportation to Canada from your country of permanent residence or the country of habitual residence to the location of work in Canada

◦medical insurance coverage provided from the date of your arrival until you are eligible for provincial health insurance

◦workplace safety insurance coverage for the duration of the employment

◦all recruitment fees, including any amount payable to a third-party recruiter or agents hired by the employer that would otherwise have been charged to you

•job duties
•hours of work
•wages
•accommodation arrangements (including room and board)
•holiday and sick leave entitlements
•termination and resignation terms

The contract the government is expecting to see does not have to look exactly like the one provided for in the link – that one is merely a template - but it must contain all the information and clauses indicated as mandatory.

The use of an alternative contract format may delay the processing of the LMO application as HRSDC and Service Canada officers will need to determine if the contract complies with LCP requirements.

http://www.servicecanada.gc.ca/eforms/forms/sc-emp5498(2011-09-005)e.pdf

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IVF Funding in Canada: Infertility Impact on Grandparents

Intracytoplasmic sperm injection can be used t...

Over the past year-and-a-half I have had the pleasure of researching and writing quite a bit on the impact IVF has on couples and the burden that is born by taxpayers in Canada. The province of Quebec, in recognizing this, has been funding IVF treatments and thus reducing the stress on families and the costs on taxpayers. My hope, and the hope of organizations like Conceivable Dreams, http://www.conceivabledreams.org/ is that other provinces in Canada will step forward, understand the true impact of infertility and in the very least, fund IVF treatments while researching the causes of infertility to help those in need.

One area which I had neglected to review was the toll infertility takes on the couple’s extended family – specifically grandparents – both current grandparents and the future grandparents. I found some articles on the Internet on IVF and grandparents and there were written by some pretty amazing people who have gone through IVF treatments and they discuss the difficult time they had discussing their feelings with their families and friends but found solace in their grandparents and the support – financial and emotional – whic helped them through the treatments whether successfully or unsuccessfully.  I also found much discussion around the shame associated with infertility and the typical responses to infertility from those unprepared to have this significant discussion.

There is no question that struggling to get pregnant can be a serious blow to the self-esteem of both women and men – women unable to carry the baby and men unable to create the child. It impacts their relationship and can cause permanent discord which some relationships are never able to recover from.  Imagine a couple going through this difficult and challenging time without support from their parents? Who could they turn to for support? What if they have no close friends who understand infertility? It can be very isolating, I would imagine.

In researching the role that grandparents play in infertility issues, I came across Dr.Alice D. Domar, Ph.D., the executive director of The Domar Center for Mind/Body Health, Boston IVF who pointed out that; “The desire to start a family is a strong one, and failing to achieve that can impact everything from the marital relationship to interactions with future grandparents and friends who become pregnant.”

Unfortunately, many couples find it easier to hide their infertility troubles than announce it to family and friends which often results in these couples feeling isolated and adds additional stress to them.  I read, and have heard, from the many people that I have spoken to, that couple resort to telling others that they have decided to not have children, rather that confessing that they are having fertility issues. That is very sad that there is a stigma attached to infertility among those who have not had to go through it, yet those who have had challenges getting pregnant fully understand the stress and would be more than willing to offer support without hesitation. Often in discussions about children, it rarely comes up that there were difficulties unless the conversation starts there.  Couples assume they are alone with their infertility issues and that it was easy for other couples to have children, but often they realize that is far from the case.

I also found some great resources for grandparents if they want to have this discussion with their children / grandchildren around the issue of infertility at www.Grandparents.com, in an article entitles, “10 Ways to Support a Fertility-Challenged Couple”.

This author of this article suffered from infertility issues and required IVF treatments in order to have her baby, and she points out ways (prospective) grandparents can help, more than financially, the couple and outlines ways in which the grandparents can actually cause more harm than good by withholding certain information or pressuring the couple.

I absolutely agree with this author and feel that the common sense rule applies here (and in SO many other aspects of our lives).  If after reviewing the scenario in your head doing or saying something might hurt or offend the other person – or you if you were in their shoes – then it’s best to not say it at all.  Chances are they have already thought it and stressed about it.

I also think it’s best to get the issue out there, especially to parents in order to set the ground rules.  Most couple do not expect to have issues getting pregnant and after having issues, research has showed that they felt they should have started seeking answers earlier, but clearly going through it is a long, stressful, frustrating process and having a loved-one shoot out a comment like; “Relax” or “Stop worrying” or “It will happen for you.  It just takes time”, may be seen as being encouraging by those who say it, but show the couple they have no support there.

Link to the original article here; http://www.grandparents.com/health-and-wellbeing/emotional-wellbeing/supporting-a-fertility-challenged-couple

Another great article I came across is here; http://www.news-medical.net/news/20100122/Infertility-can-lead-to-isolation-and-impact-on-couplee28099s-relationships.aspx, outlines how infertility can bring a couple closer together but also leads to them holding back information from prospective grandparents in order to keep their stress levels lower since most parents would do anything for their children and will try to offer the best suggestion to help the couple conceive when the couple just needs support and understanding.

This puts the grandparents in an awkward position as they want to help out and do what is best for their children but usually by the time they find out that their children are suffering from infertility, the couple has already met with specialists, confirmed the infertility, read a ton of articles, Googled it, and have spoken to friends or acquaintances who themselves had fertility issues.  Deep into the stressful period of infertility, couples usually have little time or patience for questions or suggestions which show a lack of understanding of the actual root cause of the infertility or the stress the couple has been holding in.

There are also some wonderful Canadian sources, such as this blog posted by @TJZmommy on her site “Telling My Story”.  http://tjzmommy.blogspot.ca/2012/09/the-impact-of-ivf-on-grandparents.html about the support she received through her battle with infertility.

If you have been impacted by infertility I welcome you to share your story in the comment section of my blog and I guarantee you will be supported by me, and the many readers who have expressed their support for IVF Funding across Canada.

You should also take a moment to check out Conceivable Dreams and please follow @OHIP4IVF on Twitter or the hash tag #OHIP4IVF to support government funding for IVF.

I support OHIP funding for IVF here in Ontario, and strongly feel that helping other couples become parents, who really want to be parents, should be accomplished without the financial burden that comes with infertility – for the couple and the taxpayers.

You can also help the cause by sending a note to the Minister of Health in your province to tell them that funding IVF treatments is the right thing to do, both emotionally and fiscally for everyone involved.

The Ministers of Health are;

Ontario – Deb Matthews; dmatthews.mpp.co@liberal.ola.org, ccu.moh@ontario.ca

Alberta – Fred Horne; edmonton.rutherford@assembly.ab.ca

Saskatchewan – Dwight Duncan; dduncan@mla.legassembly.sk.ca

B.C. – Michael de Jong; hlth.minister@gov.bc.ca

Manitoba – Theresa Oswald; minhlt@leg.gov.mb.ca

New Brunswick – Madeleine (Mado) Dubé; madeleine.dube@gnb.ca

Nova Scotia – Maureen MacDonald; healmin@gov.ns.ca

Newfoundland – Susan Sullivan; SusanSullivan@gov.nl.ca

PEI – Doug Currie – dwcurrie@gov.pe.ca

Canada – The Honourable Leona AglukkaqMinister_Ministre@hc-sc.gc.ca

*Disclosure: I am honoured to share this story of IVF as a valued and compensated member of the Conceivable Dreams blog team.

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Thursday Thirteen, on Thursday the 13th. 13 Things I missed while on vacation with my family. Last year vs This year.

English: Honour guard for Jack Layton.

English: Honour guard for Jack Layton. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Since today is Thursday the 13th, I would be remiss if I didn’t have a post for today…  Oddly enough I had this post sitting in my draft folder since last summer and it perfectly ties in with thoughts for today’s post.Last year for our family vacation we drove to New York.  We took our time getting there and made sure to stop along the way to visit attractions in the State like Howes Caverns, as we headed to the apartment we rented in Brooklyn.  We had a very busy week running around the city and had very little time to catch up with local news online.

We totally lost touch with the news when we left on a cruise from Manhattan, down the coast to Barbados – where we met Hurricane Irene - and never regained touch as we raced back up the coast back into Manhattan before we finally settling in with cousins in New Jersey as the storm hit.

Cruise ships are not known for having free WiFi, in fact Internet is so expensive that we did without and we missed some pretty interesting news stories which we encountered upon our return back to Toronto.

This year for family vacation, we spent a week in Disney (melting in the heat and humidity) before heading out for a cruise – again hitting the Hurricane (Tropical Storm Isaac) - and then settling in Florida when the storm hit before racing up and across the state at 3am to catch a flight out and back to Toronto.

Again, on the cruise ship, no WiFi and very expensive Internet, so again we missed a lot of news.

So today’s Thursday 13 is a comparison of the events we missed while on the cruises – the first 9 happened last year and the last 4 happened this year…  What a difference a year makes, eh?

So with the kids settling in back in school and us adults getting some piece of mind back, sit back, relax, be happy it’s Thursday the 13th and not Friday the 13th, and let’s begin:

Here are 13 things that I missed while on vacation without Internet connection or any sources of news;

13. Jack Layton died – Newly elected leader of the opposition party of Canada, Jack Layton, died.  This was a huge shock especially to me as Layton made his name in Toronto City council, so I got to see and hear from him a lot.  He is best known for being quick-witted, a great speaker but unfortunately being the leader of the NDP has always meant 3rd best in Canada until Layton was able to use his catch phrases (#fail) and the utter incompetency of the Liberal party to pass them in the polls and into 2nd place and become the official opposition party in Canada.  The NDP also booted the separatists out of Quebec (for a bit) but upon his passing they named a former head of the largest union in Canada as his temporary successor.  The “orange wave” will certainly not be the same by the next election.  I also wondered if Jack knew he was sick in the last election and if he owed it to Canadians to tell us that instead of voting for a leader who knew he was not going to be the leader in the next 3-6 months.

12. News that Hurricane Irene was coming – Yeah, we totally didn’t see that coming… Oops.

11. Libya – The Libyan civil war, which began in February 2011, fought between forces loyal to Colonel Muammar Gaddafi and those seeking to oust his government took a historical turn when the rebel forces captured the capital city of Tripoli well on their way to the ousting and eventual death of Gaddafi.

10. I missed real unbiased news. Instead I got MSNBC, BBC, CNBC and Fox.  The political biases in the news and news reporting on these stations was extremely evident and all I wanted was a station that gave straight up news or at the very least held back on the blatant attacks on the other political party.

9. The Blue Jays trade of Aaron Hill and John MacDonald.  The Jays dumped a lot of salary in trading 2B Hill to the D’Backs for Kelly Johnson.  I was surprised but pleased to see Hill and Johnny Mac get a fresh start and having Johnson buys time for some kids developing in the minors.  This was significant because it told me that the new GM was going to make major changes and dumping salary was one great way to start.

8. My GCC updates -It was very hard to keep in the loop on the Global Corporate Challenge with no internet, especially as my team was challenging another office team for 1st place in our company and we were in the top 10 in Canada out of 606 Canadian teams.  I walked a TON on our vacation and wrote down the stats for entering when we had Internet. but I didn’t know if the 50,000, 60,000 and 70,000 steps I was walking were going to be enough or if I needed to stay up later and walk even more to help my team win.  We eventually did take 1st place for our company beating Canadian and American teams, and we finished 6th in Canada and somewhere around 200th in the world out of over 20,000 teams.

7. Clean clothes – You can only wash and re-wash clothes so many times before you get sick of them and want different clothes.  I hit that breaking point.

6. Earthquake!  We missed an earthquake that was centred in Virginia but the impact was felt right up into Toronto.  Cool.  The kids would have loved that.  Not that fleeing a Hurricane was not cool, but experiencing this natural disaster as an after shock would have been interesting.

5. Being Dry!  It rained so much the last 5 days of the trip I just wanted dry shoes, dry clothes and dry roads to drive home on.

2012 Vacation

4. Lance Armstrong – Lance Armstrong was stripped of his record seven Tour de France wins and handed a lifetime ban by the United States Anti-Doping Agency.   He remained defiant and said he would not fight the charges and that he has done more for the sport than bad.  One major problem is that the next 6 racers after Armstrong have all been banned for doping infractions.  Yikes.

3. Hurricane Isaac was coming to meet us in Florida… Again, who knew.  For those of you thinking we’re idiots (or adventurous) for going to Hurricane centres during hurricane season you will be pleased to note that we have decided to stop travelling the last week of August down south.

2. Rogers Cable bought Headline Sports which is good and bad.  Good because Headline Sports is a great station and they carry all the WWE wrestling, but bad if Rogers who already have Sportsnet decides to pillage the station and boot out all the staff and send away the programming.

1. Not only does the NASA Land Rover land on Mars but it zaps a couple of rocks and takes some great pictures.  Incredible!   We missed the live feeds but saw it on the net upon our return.

What a difference a year makes, but it’s funny how not having Internet for just one week can mean missing so much.  What did we do 15 years ago?

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9.11. 11th Anniversary. What the US response should have been.

English: A room in the Al Bustan Rotana hotel,...

English: A room in the Al Bustan Rotana hotel, Dubai, UAE. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Today represents the 11th anniversary of the horrific terrorist attacks in the United States in which a whole lot of innocent people and heroes lost their lives.  While I’m sure those who thought up and carried out these attacks felt they were justified and that this was an acceptable response to address their issues, the loss of innocent lives, the destruction of New York and fear that it brought to the Western world which is still being felt to this day, shows these terrorists made a huge mistake in getting the attention of the Western world.

Say what you want about the US response, to try to flatten Afghanistan, enter Iraq and getting involved in the human right issues of other “Arab” nations but when the videos hit the net of the kids in West Bank and Gaza Strip celebrating and cheering, I’m pretty sure we all knew the world would never be the same.

The actions of the Allied forces through their armed maneuvers, the terrorists still attempted to attack the West and Western values in a more subvert manner through “sleeper cells” in order to continue to wreak havoc on the lives of ordinary citizens on a daily basis, even going as far as having that idiot Nigerian Islamist who tried to blow himself up on Christmas day, 2009 with explosives in his underwear.

All in all, looking back, I think the US / Allied approach was wrong.

Before I go further, let me state for the record that I understand that these attacks were carried out by extremists and my issue is with these extremists only – no matter what their religion or race may be – but it has been portrayed as being a Western world vs Islamist world issue and until someone steps up on the Islamist side and states clearly this, nothing is going to move forward in making that distinction.

So while we remember those who lost their lives, let’s look at a different event, on Arab soil and see how they handled it and possibly gain some insight into how the West could have dealt with this right away without harming the citizens already living in these Western countries who have nothing to do with these horrific events.

Case in point, below;

In 2010, one man, named Mahmoud Abdel Rauf al-Mabhouh was killed in a 5-star hotel in Dubai after being drugged and smothered by a pillow.  His death was blamed on the Israeli spy agency Mossad.

Al-Mabhouh was a senior Hamas commander and one of the founders of a military wing of this political organization who were involved in several armed actions targeting Israel, including the abduction and killing of two Israeli soldiers in 1989.  In more recent years, al-Mabhouh had assumed an important role procuring weapons for the al-Qassam Brigades.

Al-Mabhouh had arrived in Dubai from Syria under an alias and using one of several passports.

Dubai police investigated his death and came to the agreement that the assassins must have been from Israel, and that they used fraudulently obtained passports from several countries so Dubai responded by arresting and kicking out Israeli officials and gave warning to European and Australian officials as well because the “26-member” team of assassins that entered Dubai used European and Australian passports.

But they did not stop there – let’s look at the reaction.

Dubai’s police chief says travellers, suspected of being Israeli will not be allowed into the United Arab Emirates even if they arrive with alternative passports.

The Emirates will now “deny entry to anyone suspected of having Israeli citizenship.”

Alright…  So if you are Israeli, have been to Israel, or have a Jewish sounding last name you are barred from entering the UAE.  A very black and white solution when you are the judge, jury and executioner and have no one to answer to.  So even if you’re not Israeli you are punished – guilty by association – and no one questioned the UAE when they did this.

Imagine if the West took the same actions…

I think we would have seen a whole lot of people, organizations and groups speaking out against these terrorist attacks and against extremism if the perpetrators knew the impact on the rest of their people.

Or if this all just wishful thinking?

After US President Obama’s reaction yesterday to the storming of the US Embassy in Egypt over displeasure about a film portrayal of the prophet Mohammed – apologizing for the film – Libyans fired grenades and gun fire into the US Embassy in Libya killing the ambassador and 3 staff.  Libya, if you recall, was freed from the rule of Gaddafi by Western forces.  Unbelievable.  On 9.11 too.

If there was ever a time to send a non-violent message to these terrorists, I think now would be the time.  Maybe the UAE had it right all along.It’s hard dealing with people who put no value on human life and there has to come a time when you look in the mirror and decide it’s time to spend the trillions of dollars on war to a different cause, maybe within your own borders.

I don’t know the answer and I don’t think there is one.  It would have been nice if everyone from ever nationality in the world stepped up and denounced extremism.  That clearly didn’t happen so the wounds of the attacks on Western ideals and values remains wide open.

So sad.

9.11

We Shall Never Forget.

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Brotherly Advice: Don’t Piss off G-d.

This conversation was overheard by myself when my boys Linus, aged 7 and Stewie, aged 5 were having breakfast last week;

Stewie: “Did you know G-d is everywhere?”

Linus: “Yup.”

Stewie: “He’s killing you right now.”

Linus: “Why?”

Stewie: “It’s his job.  He’s killing everyone right now.”

… Pausing for chewing of food…

Stewie: “Linus.  Put your fist in the air.”

Linus puts his fist in the air.

Stewie: “Oh, great!  You just punched G-d.  Now he’s killing your more!!!”

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Not just for the nannies: Signs you may be getting fired!

I have really come to appreciate how those in the nanny industry feed me articles that they think may fit with my readership since more and Don't wait until the kids fire you...more, I get the biggest bang for my buck (reads and comments) on these posts, and the agencies benefit from the extra readership of their articles.  It’s a win-win situation.

I especially like when they are well written and cover off more than just the nanny industry as this post does.  This post came to me from www.4nannies.com, entitled “Nanny Alter: Signs you’re getting fired”. Not only will this article help nannies understand some very key signs that their employers are giving them but if noticed early enough, then maybe the behaviour can be changed and prevent the termination, or at the very least they can understand there is a separation looming and they should start looking.

As I read through this article I realized these warning signs do not just apply to nannies, caregivers and au pairs, but they also cross into other areas of employment and would therefore be of assistance to everyone in helping them realize the signs their employers are giving them and when it might just be time to move on.

Here are some of the most obvious clues from this wonderful article:

1) Your employer has started to correct the way you carry out tasks or comment on ways you handle situations.  Important in the nanny-world because it shows that something they may have tolerated for a period of time is something they are no longer tolerating.  If the pattern continues it shows the employer that may you just cannot handle the job and over time your employer will look for someone who can.

2) You have a discussion about your “attitude” and you notice theirs is changing.  If your employer has come right out and mentioned that you have a bad attitude it’s almost certain that your attitude has rubbed them the wrong way for a period of time and they are getting fed up and starting to think that someone else would certainly have a better attitude.  You will also notice that in their frustration that they will no longer tolerate your attitude or shrug it off as being a bad day, but you will see that they will start giving you attitude right back because they figure you hate your job and are leaving or they would be doing you a favour by letting you go.

3) Your employer stops asking or caring about your personal life.  This is all part of the distancing process which many people need in order to convince themselves that they can do without you and helps them cope better during the termination.  It’s hard to  fire a friend so employers tend to distance themselves first.  It’s a key sign.

4) You start to feel like you cannot meet their expectations.  If you are finding that there are expectations on you and the position you occupy and that you are not meeting or exceeding these expectations then I guarantee you that your employer knows it too.  It might be a good time to have a discussion with your employer around those expectations and talk to them about what they are really expecting and what you realistically accomplish.  After that discussion you both might realize that there is not a good fit between the two of you and maybe you make an agreement to work until a replacement is found and in the meantime you will begin to look for a new employer.  That is much better than getting 2 weeks notice and looking for a role in desperation.

5) You begin to notice signs towards a search for your replacement.  If you start to hear rumours of your employer interviewing others for your position or you find out there are interviews going on for your position then you might want to get moving on looking for a new position right away.  You might also want to approach your employer to discuss it, so that you can mutually agree on when to expect to have to collect your belongings and move on.  It’s also a great time to get a reference from your employer for your next role and even to see if they know anyone looking.  It’s much easier doing that when you are still there and on good terms.

The article was posted here; http://www.4nannies.com/blog/nanny-alert-signs-youre-getting-fired/

Getting fired is never easy, but it certainly doesn’t mean you’re a bad employee or a bad human being.  In the nanny world it also shouldn’t mean the end of your relationship with the children you’ve cared for and come to love, and as an employee with your former colleagues and peers.   Even if the situation caught you by complete surprise and causes you much stress and financial difficulty it’s good to know that you did the best you could the whole time and you can feel good telling your next employer that there were other factors in play and if you left on good terms, your employer should be more than willing to let that next prospective employer know your strengths and weaknesses and still help you move on.

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Thursday Thirteen: Why the NHL is Quickly Becoming a Joke all over again

Cancelled season

Cancelled season (Photo credit: theMatthewBlack)

It’s summertime in Toronto and even though my Toronto Blue Jays are having a horrid season I still have given very little thought to what is going on with my Toronto Maple Leafs and with the NHL and hte NHLPA.  It’s not that I don’t want to, but I can’t bring myself to do it… It causes me stress and makes me sad.  Lockouts, unions, bad hockey markets, stupidly insane long-term contracts and a terrible local hockey team with an American GM bringing in only American players are enough reasons to stay away from the sport I grew up loving.

My Thursday Thirteen this week will focus on the 13 things that the NHL has done to alienate many fans and are leading to the league once again becoming the joke of all professional sports leagues.

So sit back, grab your Atlanta Thrashers jersey, a Rick DiPietro autographed hockey card (where he is actually playing) and hopefully this edition won’t concuss you.

Thirteen reasons the NHL is becoming a joke all over again:

13. The stupid Collective Bargaining Agreement (CBA) negotiations have been underway for a while now – technically since the last lockout – but of course the players association and the owners are waiting until just before training camp to start the real negotiations.  What this really means is that I get to hear the league cry poor (“we lost $200 million dollars over the last 4 years”) and the players defending their $100 million dollar 14 year contracts which would cover them playing until they are 44-years-old which we know is unrealistic in this league.  If the NHL loses any part of their season because of this lockout, they will lose fans and they may never recover…

12. The 2004–05 NHL lockout resulted in the cancellation of what would have been the 88th season of play of the NHL and it marked not only the first time since 1919 that the Stanly Cup was not awarded but also the NHL became the first major professional sports league in North America to cancel a complete season because of a labor dispute.  The lockout lasted 10 months and 6 days and since that lockout we have seen wide open play not resulting in more goals as projected, but in way more concussions, very dirty plays, unnecessary fighting, untimely deaths of the leagues “enforcers” and teams circumventing the salary cap they fought for, by teams offering extremely large front and rear-loaded contracts to the players who were making too much to begin with.  That make the lockout a giant waste of time and a severe miscalculation on behalf of the league, the owners and the players.  Only the fans got screwed here as salaries rolled back but ticket prices did not.

11.  Stupid owners – Stupid owners cry poor and ask players to roll back their salaries but do not reduce the cost for tickets.  That makes them appear greedy and sways the public favour towards the players.  These same owners also offer and sign off on long-term contracts to circumvent the salary cap they insisted they needed and they put their faith in Gary Bettman who has no longer proven he can do the job by allowing a player to be signed until he is 42-years-old when only a few elite players are capable of playing into their 40′s.  Hey owners… We see right through it.

10.  Long term contracts.  On September 12, 2006, Rick DiPietro signed a 15-year, $67.5 million contract with the Islanders and since that signing their “franchise goaltender” has played in around 200 games out of a potential 570 games and is, and always has been, an average yet injury prone goaltender.  Signings like this and the Yashin, Kovalchuk, Reddon deals and this summer with the Suter and Parise deals are setting a dangerous precent for the league which is seeing team “lock-up” their better players and thus killing the chances for other teams to get better through trades.  Publicly, in times of recession, $100 million dollar contracts are not cool to the average person and it reinforces the stereotype that players and agents are greedy for thinking of themselves only and not about the game, and it makes the owners look like complete tools for approving them and then 2 months later crying poor.  Long term contracts also make the trade deadline boring and it takes a “capologist “to figure out if players can be signed or traded and in causes a swelling of salaries because player A for $98 million but player B had better stats and is worth $102 million.  Watching a team overpay for a player in order to meet the salary cap floor means that player is certain to be buried in the minors and untradable once their stats level off or a better players come along.

9.  Greedy players.  And by greedy players I am referring to the players who have success on a team because of their linemates and the team’s system but take a sick amount of money to sign a long-term contract with another team only to stink out the joint – ahem, Scott Gomez.  Then the player gets bought out or traded back for a bag of pucks.  Hockey is a team game and fans do not come to watch one specific player because the league will not allow for players to be creative and show off their talents.  For every super-skilled player in the NHL there are 3 players like Matt Cooke who does not hesitate to wipe these guys out from any angle under the guise of “doing my job” and “finishing my check”.

8. Fighting in the game.  I’ve got to be in the minority here but I’ve lost total interest in fighting in hockey because I’ve found it to be unnecessary.  The concept of having players on the roster to bully other players – who are on their roster to “pester” the good players – is ruining the game.  If the NHL were serious about improving its game it would immediately cut the rosters down to 3 forward lines as it does with the 3 defensive lines and eliminate that 4th line of “agitators” and “fighters”.  The third lines could be the speedy skilled guys and then players would be more willing to try fancy, creative moves on the rush instead of worrying that they are going to get hammered crossing the blue line and wind up with a career ending concussion.  With this elimination must come an elimination of boarding which has become an accepted practice in the NHL, now known as “finishing your check”.  If a player does not have the puck, they cannot be hit, and if they do, they can only be hit to dislodge the puck from their possession, not their head from their bodies.

7. Horrible locations for teams.  Atlanta, Tampa, Phoenix, Columbus, Florida, Carolina… Really?  How did the NHL really think that 2 teams in California and 2 teams in Florida were equal to 2 teams in Ontario?  I appreciate that the league wants to “explore” Las Vegas and Kansas City but that is an mis-guided a move as putting a team in Markham, Ontario because they have a NHL-sized arena too.  Why?  Hockey is a winter sport and as such should be played in areas where they have winter and people actually like the game!  Not only does having teams like Florida and Tampa winning the cup tarnish the league’s reputation much in the same way having an American team win th CFL’s Grey Cup as the Baltimore Stallions did in 1995.   It took all the history and heritage of the league and cheapened it by helping non-traditional hockey market stock their teams and win.  I still shake my head about that decision.

6. Lack of scoring.  Where are the goals?  Where is the excitement?  Does the league really think that the majority of their fan base wants to see a 2-1 game full of dump-and-chase hockey?  Does the league really think the “trap” is good for the game as opposed to a show of skills?  The product the league puts out tells the general public this game is all about trying to run over the opponent and give the puck away then go and run someone over trying to get it back.  Sadly, the only times the skill and talents of the players are showcased is when there is a blowout or as the game gets late and players start to tire.  The obvious solution as I mentioned earlier is to cut down roster size but the NHL likes gimmicks and instead will make the nets larger.  Since the league cannot make the ice surface bigger and cutting down the number of skaters on at a time is out of the question, they will continue to tweak with the game instead of doing the obvious.  Anyone for another trapazoid?  #fail.

5.  The trap.  Possibly the worst thing for hockey since taking out the redline was allowing teams to play the trap.  Boring hockey and a lack of reinforcement of the rules which allows other teams to not forecheck and instead strategically set up their players in a way to not allow the other team to touch the puck not only is an insult to the fans who pay top dollar to watch but to the game itself which needs goals scored to win.  This allowance of the trap also told teams they didn’t need skilled players they could do well with “pluggers” and out goes the skill and in came the 3-lines of defense first players.  Yawn.  It also meant skilled players who lit up junior hockey were being held back from playing in the NHL until they learned how to play defense.   Terrible.

4.  Concussions.  Absolutely ruining the game as we have seen skilled players miss considerable amounts of time due to concussions – like Sidney Crosby who was the face of the NHL and is now one hit away from being another casulty ina league that does nothing to protect it’s players.  What the NHL / NHLPA is missing is that the trickle down effect is parents like me and many readers of my blog will not be putting our kids in organized hockey because there are other options which will not cause permanent brain damage to our children.  The game is broken.  All respect is gone among players and the NHL can save face by acting… FAST.  No respect, no play.

3. The Hockey Night In Canada theme song.  I’m glad TSN bought the rights and showed the world they could but the lustre has worn off and the song needs to be returned to where it belongs.  It belongs on the CBC, on Saturday nights, otherwise it becomes just another song being played at the beginning of hockey games.  TSN, you made your point.  Now do the right thing… Please.

2.  Gary Bettman.  He’s gotten surely, he lies to protect the face of the league yet he is the face of the league.  He said there was nothing wrong in Atlanta and that a NHL team would never be going to Winnipeg and look what happened.  He also states that the Phoenix team will be in the desert for a long time and I think that is also far from the truth.  He continues to ignore Canada in effort to ”grow” the game and his legacy, when he should be pulling back the US teams in the non-hockey markets and filling up Ontario, Quebec and Saskatchewan (and possibly even one for the Maritimes) and growing the game before adding other markets.   I mean, geez, you don’t have to pull a Gil Stein and elect yourself to the Hockey Hall of Fame, but if doing that will allow you to move aside then please let me cast the first ballot.  It’s 100% time for a change and let’s put this in perspective… I detest unions so for me to be harping on the head of the owners means there must be a change at the top.  If the NHL is so determined to bust the union time and time again then don’t let the players set one up and be honest about it.  The players want more money when they have great seasons but I have never seen a player offer to give back when they have a terrible season.  I’m sure Donald Fehr is not going to roll over for the owners so the league needs to open up their books, be honest about their revenues and tell the players what they want to pay them.  If the players walk out, get new ones.  Then sign a 300 year deal and move on.

1. Taking the youth out of it.  What the NHL has done well in the past 15 years is take the youth out of the game.  By youth I am not referring to young players but I am referring to the increasing costs of tickets to games, the rising costs or merchandise in order to give some money to the players and the NHLPA, and the destruction of the hockey card market.  Kids today cannot expect to see a hockey game live unless their parents are rich, they are given a pair of seats from a season ticket holder, they buy them through a scalper or they live in Florida.  You can’t expect kids to love the game like we did growing up when they never get to see it.  I grew up going to see the Toronto Marlies play because I could never get into Maple Leaf Gardens, but I owned tons of jerseys, tens of thousands of hockey cards and I knew the players inside and out.  Now at $7.99 for a pack of 4 hockey cards and $179.00 for a jersey, kids only get to know the superstars and they look at the value of the card and not the content.  Upper Deck killed the hockey card market.  The NHL / NHLPA are killing their young fan base.  If something doesn’t give the NHL faces a bleak future on many fronts.

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