Five ways Ghomeshi reveals rape culture


The Urban Daddy:

Very good post! It’s amazing the number of people who believed Jian’s PR written press release without giving a moment’s thought that there might actually have been a victim or multiple victims.

Looking back know, as more women come forward it prompts me, and many others to think that he thought he could get in front of this… again, because of his celebrity / notoriety.

This post is worth clicking through to read!

Originally posted on cultivating alternatives:

- by Nick Montgomery

There is a frenzy of activity to find “the facts” about Jian Ghomeshi, the allegations against him, and the women who have shared their experiences. Thousands of fans have flocked to defend Ghomeshi and deride his accusers as vindictive slanderers.

Others have expressed their moral outrage that Ghomeshi could be such a monster.  Others have called for us to wait until there are “more facts.”  These are consistent patterns that arise when discussing rape, sexual assault, and gendered violence. They are some of the jianghomeshipatterns of rape culture.

As Jane Kirby explains, rape culture is “anything that normalizes unwanted, nonconsensual sex. In other words, rape culture is anything that makes rape seem like it is not really rape.” It gets disseminated through jokes, TV, music, advertising, legal jargon, laws, words, and imagery, that make violence against women and sexual coercion seem so normal that people think…

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How Not to React to Jian Ghomeshi’s PR Statement


The Urban Daddy:

Very well written post about the CBC v Ghomeshi and why it’s a lose/lose/lose situation for everyone. Let the facts stand on their own merit and don’t necessarily believe the PR-manufactured hype.

Originally posted on Elle Beaver:

Well. It’s been a hell of a week in Canada.

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I read the xoJane article about Jian when it was published, in June 2013. Since then, I’ve heard numerous similar stories about general creepy behaviour. I stopped listening to Q, because even though I wasn’t a big fan of his before, I could no longer listen to Jian Ghomeshi’s voice without hearing him as a huge skeezebag. But I never thought it was anything more than that – just icky, skeezy behaviour that women are already all too used to. I didn’t see a story there, so I didn’t write anything about it. What would the title be? “Famous Guy Has Big Ego and Thinks Women Are Objects” … yeah. Super original content, there.

Yesterday all of that changed. As soon as the CBC announced that they fired Jian because of new information that had come to light, a lot…

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Happy 50th Dove Canada. Thank You For Teaching Men, Women and Children to be Happy in Their Own Skin


Dove is celebrating 50 years in Canada, and to mark the occasion they have reached out to men, woman and children about health, and what it means to be beautiful.  During their campaign celebrating their 50th year, Dove revealed some startling facts around women and the fear of embracing their age!  untitled

Earlier this year, Dove put out an open casting call to find up to 50 real Canadian women. More than 4,000 women from coast-to-coast applied and those selected are being featured in a new campaign showcasing their personal stories about why they feel beautiful at any age.

Dove is celebrating its 50-year milestone in Canada trying to inspire women to feel beautiful at any age – whether they are 30 or 100 – to educate children about what advertisers do to images of “real” people and how that is not attainable, and by providing better quality men’s products without all those unneeded chemicals and additives.

You can watch Dove’s new film titled How Old Are You? here: www.youtube.com/dovecanada.

Here are some additional stats on why Dove decided to launch the Beautiful Age Campaign and they were asking Canadian women, “shouldn’t every age feel beautiful?”

  • 27% of women feel you have to be young to be beautiful
  • 25% of woman feel pressure to look younger than their age
  • On average, women get anxious about aging at 34
  • 56% of woman feel negative when naked
  • 47% of women feel society puts less value on older women
  • 20% of women avoid celebrating birthdays because of their age
  • 42% of women wish they looked younger
  • 28% of women have pretended to be younger
  • 72% of women are concerned about aging
  • 87% of women are not proud to reveal their age

Amazing.

But Dove is not just concerned about woman, as during this campaign they made the rounds to many public schools to have conversations with children about health, and “beauty” and the role that media places on men, woman, boys and girls.  They showed the children pictures of real people and then images of what they looked like after make-up, and photoshop, and they told the children that so long as you take care of yourself and feel happy about yourself that is all that matters.

My 9-year-old son came home to tell me all about this discussion with the representatives from Dove Canada because he knows that I have been using the Dove Men + Care product line for over a year once it was introduced to me.  He told me that they saw an image of a woman who has brown hair and brown eyes and once the advertisers got through with the images she was now blonde with blue eyes and they make her skin look perfect and made her look super-thin and that for the majority of people in the world, it’s just not possible.

He understood the message, which tells me it was a great campaign, and a great idea by Dove!  I like what I see from Dove on the product side and socially within the community itself  They deserve to be recognized and commended for their actions.

There is more on the Dove Men + Care coming up, as they have a new men’s shaving product which they shared with me, but this post is all about Dove’s 50th birthday in Canada.  (Clearly not afraid to say their age, eh?)

And The Final Player Taken in the 2014-2015 Fantasy Hockey Draft Was…


The final player chosen in the 2014-2015 fantasy hockey draft that I joined was… Grant Clitsome.  Yup.  Clitsome.  Now, I’m not repeating his name while snickering like a little boy, but there were more than a few guys at this draft who were.

I’m more of a fan of the names which require a little bit of imagination, like “Pitlick”.  There was Lance Pitlick who played in the NHL from 1994 to 2002, and there is young Tyler Pitlick who is hoping to get his career started with the Edmonton Oilers.

Clitsome, however, is not funny.

It did occur to me, however, that there are some other sports figures who have names worth a snicker to a 10-year-old, and I happen to have a draft post with them in it.

For example, the Buffalo Sabres in the NHL had a defensive pairing of Richard Shmelik and Alexei Zhitnik, or, Shmelik / Zhitnik as the Buffalo announcer would carefully pronounce.

Or, former NBA player, now coach, Pooh Richardson.  (My 7-year-old LOVED that is his name was “Pooh”).

Or the legendary Dick Butkus.

On the evil side, the NHL had Keli Corpse and Miro Satan (pronounced as SHA-tan) playing a couple of seasons ago.

How about Pete LaCock, who played Major League Baseball for 9-seasons from 1972 to 1980.  Born Ralph Pierre LaCock, he preferred to be called Pete.  His father was Peter LaCock, who changed his name to Pater Marshall, and hosted the TV game show “Hollywood Squares” from 1966 to 1981.

Also in baseball, Mariners player Dick Pole, Twins player Rusty Kuntz, or Albert Pujols (pronounced Poo-Holes).  I like the name Dick Trickle.

Other unusual names include Slovenian basketball player Gregor Fucka and NFL player BJ Johnson.

Question: If your last name, or first name for that matter, was one in which you were not 100% comfortable with, would you make the change?

We’re Rooting For Pluto To Be Elevated Back To Planet Status!


It was just eight years ago (2006) when the planet Pluto – discovered in 1930 –  was unceremoniously relegated to dwarf planet status by the International Astronomical Union.

News comes today, that the Harvard-Smithsonian Centre for Astrophysicists is lobbying hard for Pluto to become a planet again based on the fact that by placing the word “dwarf” in front of the “planet” does not mean that Pluto is not a planet.  It is a planet, just a smaller one.

Yes, if Pluto is relegated back to planet status, there are other, newly discovered masses which would qualify for potential planet status, such as Triton or Eris or 50000 Quaoar or 90377 Sedna.

The best line I read on this topic (I will find the source and cite it!) read: “And what does Pluto make of all this? Pluto is a massive clump of rock and ice trapped in a lonely silent orbit through the dark recesses of space several billion miles away from Earth. As such, it could not be reached for comment.”

Welcome back to the solar system, Pluto. We’ve missed you and some of us under the age of 8 have never met you!.

Unfortunately, my daughter will no longer be able to sing The Planet Song;

“Planets, planets, they’re so great.

Did you know that there are 8.

Mercury, Venus, Earth and Mars.

Lots of planets. Lots of stars.

Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus too.

Then comes Neptune and we’re through.”